Each of us live for a reason. We live for the people we love. Like how mothers live for their children and vice versa. Sometimes because of love, we keep secret to protect our loved ones from getting hurt. But have you ever though that if you gone missing one day and your children never knew the truth about what had happened, what will happen to them? They will live in misery and guilt for the rest of their lives.
Many parents with cancer choose to hide the truth from their children. 50% of them will recover and go back to their children and live like normal. 50% of them have bad prognosis and might not have a chance to live.
You feel pain because of cancer, your children will feel pain as well. If you hide the truth from them and the children keep thinking that mum is still my healthy mum, she will always be there when I get home. Then suddenly, if things got worse and you will die and never return home and your children came back from school one day finding that their mummy won’t come back forever. How would they feel? Losing you will break them down spiritually, mentally, physically and it will affect their later life.
Every mom and dad is important to their children, no matter how old they are. If anyone of you missing, the family will not be complete.
No matter how painful is the truth, you should say it out and share with your family and children. Children that are too young might not understand what is cancer but at least they know it’s causing great pain to their mummy and they will want to stay by your side to bring you a glass of water, tell you stories and comfort you.
I think the cruelest thing that could happen to a child is unable to say the last goodbye and tell their mum/dad how much they love them before their parents passed away. Even if they knew that might be the last words that they can said to you but it means a lot.
A boy messaged me on msn. His mum is having cancer now but he doesn’t know anything about her condition because she stay in the hospital by herself to receive treatment. Then one day, her condition worsen. He worries about her and keep asking me if I know what is the best method to save his mum. I really don’t know how to answer him because we both don’t know anything much about her except it is cancer. I share his pain and fear, and at the same time I feel very helpless.
If you love your children. tell them the truth. Give them a chance to try their best to help you find a good doctor, a good surgical procedure, nutrition or anything which can help treat cancer. For them to sit and wait at home for your return with the possibility losing you for the rest of their life is a cruel thing to do.
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