Thanks to your thoughtful post kokfye but I’m not trying to flame you. Don’t perasan. I’m just trying to remind you not to look at people superficially instead try to look at the beautiful side of them. Charm is deceptive, you know.
Everyone love beautiful things, beautiful women. Guys always drool over cute pretty girls with big boobs, sexy long legs in miniskirt and silky long hair. It has always been like this for generations I guess. At least for those guys (dat include kokfye) I know since high school, they had always been like that. Some guys and girls would always go for the external appearance first when making friends, looking for partner, hiring employee.
But if everyone is going for the so perfect beautiful people, have you ever consider about those who are born to be not so beautiful? It’s not like they are ugly, but they are just less outstanding when being compared with those who are more appealing and attractive. If other people tell you that you are ugly and they don’t prefer to make friends/date you/hire you/etc…. how would you feel? HURT.
When you are doing this to other people, don’t you think you will hurt their feelings as well? Sometimes the word “ugly”, even though you did not say directly to someone face, but it will still hurt that person. Do you understand that hurtful feeling? Because I know how it feels.
When I was in high school, my male friends would criticize me that I’m ugly or give me the equal meaning of ugly. Few years passed, the estrogen and the cold in Russia made my skin fairer, made my boobs bigger. Unconsciously, my ex-schoolmates forgotten how they used to tease me and started to tell me that I’m beautiful, I look gorgeous and so. This is what I call superficial. People make friends, try to stick around you, try to suck up to you when you are good looking.
You might think I’m very mean and I do pick my friends, the beautiful ones from inside out. I don’t judge people from the way they look because I think everyone is born beautiful and unique in their own way. Some might have big eyes, some might have small eyes. But the most important thing that made them beautiful doesn’t come from how they look but it comes from the heart. Ugly people are those that made themselves ugly, those that being unkind and mistreat others.
When I was hospitalized, I don’t look good at all. After my surgery and plus the effects of chemotherapy and radiotherapy, I would say I looked ugly and scary. But none of my friends left me and it was also during this ugliest looking time that Ken fell in love with me.
What I want to say is outer beauty will not last forever. People will look beautiful sometimes and ugly sometimes. But the inner beauty will always stays and it will last forever. And it is because of the inner beauty that you have, that’s why I love you so much. (Belle, Yvonne, Yung, Kailoon, Allysa, Fiona, curryegg, Jian, Hao and everyone!)
When you want somebody to like or love you sincerely, don’t just look at the shell. Look what is inside. Because the most beautiful thing usually are hidden inside and you need to find it yourself. When you found it, you have actually gotten yourself a priceless treasure.- True love, True friends. There is nothing more beautiful than these in this world.
i love you too yy =D touched…
ive been ugly too. who hasnt? but mine lasted two years..fat T T. but sam saw me =] he is my only best friend back then lol.!
i fell in love with you because of the things you jot here and i fell deeper when i see you in person. you are bubbly and never once mention bout cancer, you only tell us all the happy things u went thru.
you are definitely beautiful inside out. im not as kind as u, but i think i am beautiful for you coz im being me. LADY FOUL hahahaha
p/s : like shakespeare says..beauty is none eternal, but a picture that is captured in the heart, is an eternal beauty -sonnet 18-
Belle you are definitely a very beautiful girl because you are so brave, so protective and you always stood up for your friends. =D I secretly admire you. Really! And no matter how, you are still very cute and adorable la sui poh!
i’m evil!
How so? =D but darrell is nice, very yihei and very heng tai. =P Oi we belum go back to the ramen stall to eat ramen la. You made 1 of my post hanging halfway. Adui….. =_=
“not to look at people superficially instead try to look at the beautiful side of them.”
This is how i perceive things: To label something as beautiful, you need to compare it with something else that isn’t strong in that area. (For example, to compare a normal person and a leng lui, I’d probably say leng lui is more beautiful.)
Either that or, you can use a not so pretty girl to compare with a normal girl. Comparison wise, normal girl will be labeled as pretty.
So, when i’m comparing beauty, ain’t I looking at the beautiful side of things?
(note that I’m not comparing ugliness, or any negative qualities in a person)
Besides, Superficial can sometimes be a beautiful term if you look at the positive side.
I emphasize on a positive side and I try not to mention anything about a negative quality.
So, what do u think of my perception of things?
Nope. You still don’t understand what I’m trying to say. Perhaps we are functioning on different brains. BIG DIFFERENCE! I’m not comparing the “positive quality” of someone but to look at someone as a whole/in total/overall not just the physical appearance. Just like an apple, this apple you are holding might look very nice and beautiful on the surface but when you bite on it, it is spoiled but you can’t tell that it is spoiled from the external appearance. Things that look good doesn’t means that it is good.
well….. this post might just inspire me to post something related….that is if you would allow me to.
Whatever is your following post, I think it will end up in a very twisted way. So stop flaming me and warn you, I did not FLAME you ok? Stop making me look like the bad guy already. If you think this is fun… then no more Murni and mango special together next holiday. I’m very serious about this!
i totally feel you when you mentioned about how realistic and superficial the world can be.i might be one who always set unrealistic goals thinking “ah this is it!i’m gonna hit those goals!” but actually who am i kidding? thanks for the inspiring post.
hey yeong thanks for your comment. I’m glad that at least you share what I feel. Thank you! =)
Weee I am included in the list! Yey! Can’t be deny that outer beauty is very important and it does make a difference in the result. Nevertheless you are correct, outer beauty won’t last, it is inner beauty that will stay on forever, it is inner beauty that a woman can trap a man’s heart, forever.
Yay! Happy ler? Faster go see doctor and get a full medical check up liao!!! As long as dr. YY lives, I will not let Yung die of hypertension bcos in this world there is no one can replace you!
I am thrilled by Ferrari, but own a Honda, and I have no complaint about it.
I like to look at lenglui, but if I were to look for a life partner, I know what I am up to. Haha…
BTW, a bit of evolution theory. As far as animals are concerned, sex is for reproduction, not fun. Humans’ ancestors were attracted to mates who could produce many offsprings. Certain physiological features, e.g. big buttocks and big breasts were associated with child-bearing abilities. As time went by, these features evolved to become standards of beauty. Today men still like women with big buttocks and big breasts, even though they no longer understand the reasons and no longer want big family.
Oh well… guys, who knows what are they thinking? So what’s in your mind? Mind telling me? Hehe I also don’t understand why sometimes but I definitely feel irritated by guys that are very insincere when treating girls. Afterall they just wanted to have sex, play for a while then dump the girl.
people tend to look at the outlook before they explore the inner self…
this is the real world that we are now..
that’s why i don’t have much friend during my school days because of how i look….i mean fierce and fury..
anyway i know how you…so just be yourself….
“don’t judge a book by it’s cover”
thiamhin looks scary and horrible meh? =P I saw ur msn pic look ok wat. probably no friends because you din buy them seremban siew pau? =D You still owe me bah kut teh!~
You’re very true and frank. It’s nice to hear someone say these things.
Aaawwwww…. 宝茹. *Hugs
I think you are really really sweet too. I like you =).
I guess Kok Fye wasn’t flamed la. Its just a habit that everyone has. As I pointed out to YY on msn, everyone has a habit of judging the people that they want to be close with and ignoring the others based on some criteria (not only looks). I mean, we can’t deny that, everyone does it, consciously or unconsciously.
I guess what he was really trying to say is that beauty comes in many forms, so his definition of beauty can be different from ours. It doesn’t mean that he won’t hug anyone that does not have beautiful looks. Beauty can be seen externally and internally.
But little that you know, he really judge the people that he want to be close with by the physical appearance. Been there, done that. Knew him for so long already sure know la. I wonder if I told you this story yet… and if you look properly in his blog, he said “So, you see… AIDS isn’t really a factor to why I wouldn’t give my hug to. As long as they are pretty, I’ll gladly hug them.” Hug only pretty girls.
Thank you YY… I never know that you love me that much! Thank you…
Totally agree that the most beautiful thing is hidden inside.. just like the pearl..
Hope that the ‘war’ between you and 3point8 will end… amitabha…
Lol I’m not having a war with him. It’s just he too free got nothing to do but to step on my periuk api. Mines will blow up wan ler.
woah I saw my name.. *luv~ luv~*
Miao miao miao miao~ Hahaha how can kurang you ler?
Woah i’m in your list too! Thanks thanks haha
This post really voice out what i felt, because i was still looking for a friend who just like you and Yvonne who cared about me for who i am who would treat me as a normal girl. I also lookin for someone like Ken who see the real beauty in you when you’re sick and treating you like a princess! Thats why my msn personal messages said “I’m looking for something special”
Hehe. You will definitely find him. It’s just a matter of time.
I can understand what u’re saying about inner beauty. If it’s friendship or companionship, then it should of course be driven by inner beauty. If someone is very ngam with me then it’s an emotional attraction than a physical attraction.
But if i’m walking down the street, it’s the hot girl with the big boobs and long legs that would grab my attention. That’s physical attraction. Men are cursed. So cannot help liao.
Eh but seriously, if u go jalan-jalan and u see a hot guy, wouldn’t u look twice at him? Humans are attracted to the physical form first than inner beauty.
But if someone chooses to be friends only because one is beautiful then it’s wrong.
I’m glad Ken can see ur inner beauty as well as appreciate ur outer beauty.
This is a darn good post.
Oh my oh my… Adrian praise me ler and he like my post. *EEEkk so happy. Lengchai, look… sure will look wan. But I only look at Wu Chun and LeeHom only Hehehehehe. Other than that, I only look at Ken. Though he’s fat and round but still very cute mah. Hahaha.
I’m touched beyond words when I read this post, especially when I found my name came on the list,much to my surprises =) Thank you for being so sweet and wonderful
I’m glad tat we got to know each other through the cyberworld even though we have yet to meet each other face to face. I’m so blessed to have known you as my fren. Your writings always manage to inspire me in some way and really did touched my heart. I once felt that I dun look good too, esp when I lost all the confidence I used to hv in myself after my last failed relationship. However, slowly I gained back my confidence with family n fren’s support, and though I may not be the most beautiful person of all, I’m blessed to know tat I’m special in my own way and that I learn to appreciate my own beauty. I learn to love myself now and indeed, I feel so much more beautiful now, inside out =) One of my fren used to say that I’m beautiful bcos I have a pure and sincere heart 
Thank you for such a beautiful post you wrote. It once again reminded me that God too, always look into our heart,and never on our appearance only
Hugs,
Allysa
p/s : Love you too! ^^
You are beautiful, allysa. hmm… our picture… we look like twins. If I’m beautiful (*perasan melebih-lebih), you are beautiful too. ahaha. That guy have failed you because he was not meant for you. HE is just not good enough for you. Someday somehow, that person that really appreciates you from the bottom of his heart will appear. Believe it and it will come true.
Wow! such a long comment that everyone left for me. Thank you, thank you so much.
So true what u write! I am a ugly fellow so I know what u meant! That is why to me there are no ugly people only unique people! Have a nice day!
looks like only 3.8 does not understand what yy is trying to say…so true that other part of his brains are being utilize. the brain in the other head(dick head).3.8( isnt it a hongkong brand? kanneh no ideas for nick isit )
BLOODY STOP COMING HERE IF U FUCKING DISLIKE WHAT YY WROTE AND SO PERASAN WANNA SAY PPL FLAME U. flame u for what? who are you? please la peanuts. what now? counter me? try =]
A very interesting post…U know ppl cant help it but to see physical appearances 1st…but if i ever go for a girl,inner beauty is 1st…
The moment you are friends with them,you can know whether they are ugly or beautiful inside…i’ve seen some super hot girls but perangai macam puki!
ceh….since when i’m so yihei and all that..
You make me sound like I’m very handsome d wor… *cough* perasan *cough*
“I don’t judge people from the way they look because I think everyone is born beautiful and unique in their own way.” – Trying to be nice human beings and all, it’s of course very um.. nice of us to think of everyone that way. The problem however is that the ‘human’ part is still there and no matter how nice we try to be, there will always be those who we’d find are harder to look at compared to others. Some would just call it being ‘yong sui’.
“It’s not like they are ugly, but they are just less outstanding when being compared with those who are more appealing and attractive.” – Even if we don’t like the way things are, it’s always nice to be thought of as ‘hamsem’ or ‘pwetty’, which is why we feel horrible whenever anyone even slightly implies that we’re unattractive (to them at least). And that’s why we try and try so hard to change ourselves on the outside to so call ‘maximize’ our attractiveness. We’re just made like that for some stupid reason.
I have no idea what I’m trying to get at but OKAY, i said it. Anyhow, it’s true what you say about inner beauty and how it would probably last longer than outer beauty. But having both would be great nonetheless.
BYE!
p.s. Darn, i’m ugly both ways.
p.s.p.s. On a lighter note, i control my drooling tendencies very well. LOL!