Thanks to your thoughtful post kokfye but I’m not trying to flame you. Don’t perasan. I’m just trying to remind you not to look at people superficially instead try to look at the beautiful side of them. Charm is deceptive, you know.
Everyone love beautiful things, beautiful women. Guys always drool over cute pretty girls with big boobs, sexy long legs in miniskirt and silky long hair. It has always been like this for generations I guess. At least for those guys (dat include kokfye) I know since high school, they had always been like that. Some guys and girls would always go for the external appearance first when making friends, looking for partner, hiring employee.
But if everyone is going for the so perfect beautiful people, have you ever consider about those who are born to be not so beautiful? It’s not like they are ugly, but they are just less outstanding when being compared with those who are more appealing and attractive. If other people tell you that you are ugly and they don’t prefer to make friends/date you/hire you/etc…. how would you feel? HURT.
When you are doing this to other people, don’t you think you will hurt their feelings as well? Sometimes the word “ugly”, even though you did not say directly to someone face, but it will still hurt that person. Do you understand that hurtful feeling? Because I know how it feels.
When I was in high school, my male friends would criticize me that I’m ugly or give me the equal meaning of ugly. Few years passed, the estrogen and the cold in Russia made my skin fairer, made my boobs bigger. Unconsciously, my ex-schoolmates forgotten how they used to tease me and started to tell me that I’m beautiful, I look gorgeous and so. This is what I call superficial. People make friends, try to stick around you, try to suck up to you when you are good looking.
You might think I’m very mean and I do pick my friends, the beautiful ones from inside out. I don’t judge people from the way they look because I think everyone is born beautiful and unique in their own way. Some might have big eyes, some might have small eyes. But the most important thing that made them beautiful doesn’t come from how they look but it comes from the heart. Ugly people are those that made themselves ugly, those that being unkind and mistreat others.
When I was hospitalized, I don’t look good at all. After my surgery and plus the effects of chemotherapy and radiotherapy, I would say I looked ugly and scary. But none of my friends left me and it was also during this ugliest looking time that Ken fell in love with me.
What I want to say is outer beauty will not last forever. People will look beautiful sometimes and ugly sometimes. But the inner beauty will always stays and it will last forever. And it is because of the inner beauty that you have, that’s why I love you so much. (Belle, Yvonne, Yung, Kailoon, Allysa, Fiona, curryegg, Jian, Hao and everyone!)
When you want somebody to like or love you sincerely, don’t just look at the shell. Look what is inside. Because the most beautiful thing usually are hidden inside and you need to find it yourself. When you found it, you have actually gotten yourself a priceless treasure.- True love, True friends. There is nothing more beautiful than these in this world.
