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How many of you will notice that your friend feels tired or sick or left out from the group when they are feeling so? I can tell you that there are probably none or maybe 1 out of 20 people. Spending most of my time with elderly people, little children and patients in the hospital had made me more observant. I know how and when do people need a helping hand from me.

Each time I go out with my friends, I would constantly observe them in case they need help or not feeling very well. When a friend is tired, I would request other friends to let us off earlier to rest. When a friend is not feeling very well, I will get remedies to relieve her discomfort. When a friend feel left out from a conversation I would excuse myself and turn away from the crowd to accompany her. Because often when I needed someone to be considerate to me, I could rarely find one. So I understand how it feels.

Today someone told me I was just lazy spending most of my time sleeping. I wish I could be that lazy too! But ever since I finished my radiotherapy, my body has always been weak. I feel fatigue easily and I need more than 12 hours of sleep a day. No matter how early I go to bed, I will always wake up very late. I also want to sleep lesser and wake up earlier so that I could follow my mom to the market, go to those little stalls for wantan mee but I just couldn’t wake up, I will feel very tired and have running nose if I do so.

Do you know that after radiotherapy and chemotherapy, all the physiological processes in the body will become slower? Healing process and regeneration of cells will become slower. The hole in my gum formed by the ulcers during my radiotherapy still hasn’t grown back. The hyperpigmentation over the area of right neck from the radiotherapy haven’t become lighter. I still feel abdominal discomfort when I ate extra, that’s why I take very little food every meal.

Though I appear to be active and cheerful, it doesn’t mean that I’m as healthy as normal people. I try to live like normal people so that people around me won’t worry so much about me. I laugh along with friends, I go shopping with my sister and I still attend classes but I will wear out easily. Sometimes I wish that you would understand. If I could be a normal healthy person like you, I’ll be running around doing something beneficial. I want to volunteer to help out children and cancer patients in the hospital because there I could give comfort to others and receive their love.

The tougher a friend appear to be, the more fragile they are. This is because we want our friends and family smile for us, not frown. A good and caring friend would understand these and will not question us.

God gave us eyes for a purpose, for us to notice friends who need help. Our ear to listen for those who seek for help. Our mouth to ask “How are you feeling now?”, “Do you need help?”

So will you be a considerate friend for today?

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