Last time during our parents’ era, guys have to spend months to years to court a girl. When he finally gets to know her personally… the most is she lets him hold her hand. I know my dad spent years to court my mum. Well, that’s the good old days. Nowadays youngster all love at first sight, sex at first date. Look, Yung even attended a marriage where the bride is 15 yrs old and pregnant and the bridegroom is 17 yrs old. What happen to the world these days?
What do true love means to you? LUST? SEX? DESIRE?
Most of the guys nowadays look at girls superficially. First, they look at their face. Next, look at their body. Then, see which stupid girl is stupid enough to sleep with them. (*To all the good guys I know, I don’t mean to include u guys in here, I know you know that you are good! =P Cheers~)
Girls, where’s your dignity? Those young girls nowadays only know how to brag how good they are, how great is their sacrifice for love. But see, after u sacrifice your vagina, then you get pregnant, then he dumps you. Is this still can be call great love? great sacrifice for love? Well…. to most rational adults, you are just STUPID! Ending up the person who gets hurt the most is YOU! That guy won’t lose anything, he can just continue f*cking other girls. If you are lucky enough, probably his parents will force him to marry you… then what?… no financial stability, how are you gonna feed your kids, pay for school fees and stuff like that? In the end, your child would wish that he/she was never born to this world to suffer.
I know there are a lot of people out there believe in true love like me. Love means something beautiful to us. Sex is only for that one and only person that will love you forever… till death do us apart. I’m a virgin and proud to be a virgin. Guys that only goes after sex… well f*ck off! I got dumped by my ex-bf because I refused to have sex with him. He ran away with a 17 yrs old girl who had an abortion before. With such medical history, you know that she definitely had offer him sex rite?… and plus she’s not those goody-good-shoes kind of girl.
Guys, when their little brother take over their mind and body, they will lose their rationality. Sex probably can satisfy them for few minutes. But true love is for eternity. Cheers~ to all people who value true love! And true love waits. People who don’t believe in long distance relationship is because this kind of guys are just desperate and wanna look for a companion to make them happy but no love exist. When you truly love someone, no matter how, no matter where, as long as you have each other in your heart… love will overcome everything right?
The price of being young. The impulsiveness of young and the false sense of unconditional immortality. Some of us learn from our mistakes and never repeat them again, some of us have to learn from those mistakes and hope we don’t carry it with us all the time. Responsibility is something that’s always taken, never given, more so in relationships.
On a side note, I’m for “love while for eternity, is never enough”. You can’t always count on love to take you places because no one, especially when we’re young will know what it is or what to do with it, which is why the sex bit because sex is part of the false sense of intimacy.
You can’t really know what love is to you until you’ve learnt what it means to be who you are and what you look for in life. That of course comes with age…and more than your fair share of painful experiences.
I always wonder if nowadays true love still exist, Chinese always said marry a wife important her inner beauty not her look, but nowadays everyone loved the look and body, so if now guy’s said i love you i wonder is true love or true lust ??
Hey YuinYin i’m a virgin too and proud to be 1 hehe
LOL! Girl were you intending to show us your new present?
hi Edrei,
probably I’m too naive ler. But cancer really make me see things differently. I want a simple life. I am just a simple woman afterall wishing to be loved. And you know the most heartbreaking is, my ex-bf send sms telling me he have a new gf after I told him I was diagnosed with cancer. The betrayal and hurt is unexplainable. And then he just makes things worse for me, his new gf keeps calling me and told me their stories and wanted to be my friend. And that nite I was suppose to be operated, my ex-bf promise to accompany me in the hospital till my operation but last minute he told me he’s not coming. And then later I found out that he went clubbing with his new gal that nite. It really hurts….
A BAD THINKER
OBSERVE ——-> FEELINGS ——> ACTION ——–> CONSEQUENCES ——-> BRAIN —-> REGRET
usually observe first then start to like someone without thinking…and pursuade the person to either couple or negative thingy and after that onli have the consequences and in the end they use their brain to think and the result will be usually regret with what they did but is already too late to find out.
A GOOD THINKER
OBSERVE ——-> FEELINGS ——> BRAIN ———> ACTION ——–> CONSEQUENCES ——-> HAPPY
they observe the person and after that they developed their feelings. but before doing anything stupid , they go through their brain first and in the end they will satisfy with what they did although the outcome might be good or bad.
think before act !
just my opinion.i noe there will be someone who will disagree with my statement. feel free to voice out and correct me =)
Fiona: “I love you” is sacred to me. I will only tell the one that I really love and gonna marry that I love him. Otherwise, you will only see me telling people I like them.
Yvonne: I will reveal my precious present soon. =D let the VIP be the last ahaha.
Peh hua: well, your thinking is right wat. Just somehow… call me kolot or watever… lol I have sexphobia.
yuin yin : is gud to have sexxphobia. it can clear out any temptation tat will destroy any person future life.although there is positive and negative, is better for a person to look on the positive side out of it.
I can only see half of ur face leh. The other half I have to image!But I am sure u r a very beautifull lady, so I will say I lust u first ( but I wouldn’t do anythings else ) then when I know better I will love u. I only agree partly with what u write about love & they live happly after! There r other factor involve ( for more infor have a look my ABS of hubby/wife hunting under abc labels ). But I can safetly say true love + money will have happly marriage. So right for u to dump ur ex bf! I will be doing the same thing also! Last time a dump a ladies b’cos she made the first move ( she scare me, I am still very green then ). Oh u like strawberry?? Very sour wan! BTW tq for dropping at my ‘hor ny’ site! Please note that all entries under ‘hor ny’ labels is not suitable for a nice ladies like u! Have a nice day!
Oh Iam sorry, only notice from other comment that u have cancer! Wish u all the best & hope that miracle do happen to u!Have a nice day.
Horny ang moh: Lol I’ve read ur ABC posts ler! So true! Hehe thanks. I’m in recovery. Will be back in action soon~ lol. U have a nice blog ler.
It’s so hard to find virgin nowadays! Btw, to me I think that sex is a sign of love. You won’t have sex with someone you don’t love, unless you are just drunk. -.-
unfortunately, that’s how the world is turning to. one thing, cant blame the guys entirely… there are girls going around to see which guys is the coolest/richest and will gladly offer themselves. it takes 2 hands to clap.
as for that 15 girl who’s pregnant. shouldnt the guy be prosecuted with statutory rape? sex with anyone 16 or younger is rape by law!
Dear, what Edei means is that in realtionships love is not enough. There has to be many other things like respect, appreciation, soulmate connection, because love means giving up your life for someone. Love is, as Leah Stewart wrote, “when we met, you grab hold of my life, in exchange, you gave me your own.” It is ike exchanging your life for another.
Well such guy is not worth your time. Maybe it is a blessing a disguise that he revealed his true colors sooner than later. The girl I’m in love with is not even drop dead gorgeous and sometimes I wonder why I’m so crazy over her. I guess it’s her personality that makes me go gaga.
Nice post.. Good to hear that still got ppl believe in true love.. haha.. and good to hear that you are recovering also.. peace be with you gal.. all the best..
Yeah, like Yvonne said, in relationships, love isn’t everything. It’s that there is also bills, works, food to be put on the table, mortgages and rent to be paid, actually living together and so on.
I’m sorry to hear that you felt betrayed that way and I share your sentiments in wanting a simpler way of things going through more than my fair share of heartbreaks. What’s left to say is that the idealism of love that you have too is reflected in people who mistake lust for love. Sometimes it really isn’t anyone’s fault.
Sometimes we want to be loved so much that we’re willing to believe anything to make our dreams come true. I’ve gone that far before and I have paid the price. “Anything” in an age where we never think of the consequences is a dangerous word indeed.
Dear Yuin Yin,
I understand how you feel on what ur ex-bf and his new gf did to you. I’ve gone thru almost the same thing. It hurts a lot when the new gf keep on bugging you on “their” new relationship, and keep saying wanting to be friends with us. I dun see the point behind it, except maybe just to hurt us deeper. So, we must be strong and learn to protect ourselves. Never let them had the chance to hurt us anymore. One simple advice for you, just let go and forget the stupid ex-bf. He doesnt even worth you to be wasting time on him. You deserve someone better in future, bcos God shall provide you with the best =) You are still very young and beautiful, always keep holding on your faith that someday you’ll hv a blessed relationship of which your ex-bf will envy and regretted on what he did to you. I have been keeping a positive attitude and be optimistic, if not I wouldnt know how to walk through the heartbroken and disappointment from my failure relationship too. Stay strong,hv more faith n hope,alright? God bless you,gal
-aLLYSa-
hhm… I actually still think that, if we wanna get away from our past experience, we will need to face it.. Forget about ur ex will be a nice way to get over quickly, but.. its more or less a hiding action.. no matter how you tried to forget this guy, can you be assure that if suddenly u met him on the street here, you wont be affected? To forget and to forgive is two different things.. I dont know how it actually works but only when we had forgived other, then baru we can get over one thing.. Dont you wish that one day, when you met him on the road with his gf, you wont be affected at all? IF you really can do it, then the victory is urs.. Wont get affected here means you are emotionally calmed and not pretending.. any way.. just my two cents.. hahah. all the best ya.
Yung: high five! ahahaha so we are the last virgins on earth eh? =P
Zewt: really ah? but nowadays i think… gulps, girls here lost their virginity as early as 14 years old ler! probably the girl’s parents just think haiya, fast fast marry off enuff la, save the trouble. typical kampung thinking.
Yvonne: yea I understand that part ler… but love is the basic thing of all right? no love, nothing starts
anthraxxx: appearance not important ler. Is the inner beauty that matters right? When someone have a beautiful heart, she will eventually look beautiful in your eyes no matter how you look at her.
Jing: ahaha hey jing, because we din break up properly… so actually i’m more to like Mad than sad. So I avoid going to sunway pyramid, midvalley and california fitness bcos i know dat’s his n his gal usual hang out place. I’ll go only with a big group of friends. If anything got ppl to stick up to me mer. Dat gal is a gangster ler. Her dad is ketua kongsi gelap. I dun wanna buta buta kena pek.
Edrei: True ler edrei. U’ve been through a lot more than me. I won’t simply start a relationship with a guy unless I know that he’s good, have aim in life, and know how to protect me, financially stable, mature and independent. But this time the betrayal is something unexpected from him. My mum and his mum also feel shocked.
allysa: yea, I know everything happen for a reason. And if you manage to find goodness in it and learn from it, you’ll realise that u will eventually discover treasure in it. I found my treasure. Lol i will blog about it another time when i finish my treatment.
Dear all, lol this post just suddenly came out bcos my ex-bf suddenly sms me on tuesday saying dat sometimes he got think about us. Really…. after what he did, I feel like… why now only said such thing? so weird. he have disappear from my life for almost 3 months and now i’m finishing my treatment soon. Is he trying to drop a bomb to kill me again? I know emotion can be a dangerous weapon especially when u have cancer cells in the body.
=.=”" Ketua kongsi gelap?? keke.. then there are two things u no need to worry d.
1. May be you wont see ur ex anymore, mix with tiger, will surely get eaten wan.. ;P
2. Kongsi gelap? Now bukit aman police CID wanna catch all Ah Tao of all Kongsi gelap d.. out of 18 sarawak big head, 12 kena tangkap d.. i heard now they start their opps in johor.. hahaha.. next year may be will reach penang.. ;P