Being trained to observe every human being from head to toe in detail, hehe… I couldn’t stop myself from noticing “things” in people all the time. Few weeks back then, I went out for a gathering. I couldn’t help myself but to notice my friend’s girlfriend has gingivitis. Everytime she smiles, her gums looks very swollen and red. I bet when she has bad breath too. Uuurrrggghhh bad kisser! Until today, I still wonder if I should tell my friend about it so that his girlfriend can get early treatment from the dentist to prevent caries. *Trapped in the sense of guilt. Should I tell or don’t tell? If I tell, then will be embarrassing for her. If don’t tell… then she will get caries and lose her teeth!
Not only in such situation. Like I notice some people have anemia by looking at the color of their lips, finger nails and palms. I notice some people who have GIT disorder by observing what they eat and the amount of food they eat. =D Hahaha I’m getting pretty good at this at observing people…. I bet my therapy teacher should be very happy to hear this. Meanwhile, April say she will never smile directly at me so that I can’t look at her gums and she will put on nail polish as long as she is with me so that I can’t look at her nails either lol.
Same goes to… when you see your friend, (female) digging her nose la… errhh not the first time doing it. She dug her nose several times in public liao. And you notice this… and also notice the reaction of public to her habit. What should you do as a friend? Tell her or just keep quiet? You know as a friend you should remind her about it but then… if you tell hor, she might not like it and treat you like her enemy. If choose not to tell… is also hmm… Aiyo susah wan to be a human being la. What will u guys do la in such situation?
Oh updates on me today. Regretted going so early for radiotherapy la. Being surrounded by ah ma and ah pek and ngam ngam give them A LOT of time and opportunity to question me and pity me. Haih… Cancer don’t choose the victim wan la… I know I’m just overly depressed when in Kursk that’s why ended up in SJMC cancer and radiosurgery centre lor! What’s there to be pity about la? Though I know I’m not eligible to buy any medical & healthcare insurance liao… but still… does it matter? Going through all this will only make me stronger and a better doctor in future. What don’t kill you makes you stronger ma!~
Ceh I will not waste my time entertaining these ah sam and ah pek for the sake of torturing me~. Tsk tsk… the more you talk to them, the more depressing it is. They’ll remind you how wasted is your life. -_-” but the truth is… I am truly happy now. Really HAPPY! I gained much more than I lost you know.
True friends. Love. Comfort. Confident. Support.
What’s more important than these eh? Life is very simple. Don’t make it so complicated.
See bear bear so happy ^^.




In the first scenario, I feel you should advise the friend. Let her know you are a fourth year medical student. make it clear that you have confidence in what you are saying. (Not pseudo-medical) Speak in an objective, serious, but caring tone. Don’t act too friendly and playful when you say it. Show her you mean it, and you mean well.
Second scenario, unless she digs until bleeding, what’s a doctor gotta do with a person’s habit?
Well, if u are planning to tell her, i guess the best way to do it is to tell her individually. Make sure no one is listening to what u are gonna tell her, or else she will be thinking that u want to humiliate her in front of her friends….
wouldn’t u say so??
I second Kok Fye’s opinion.
Yvonne: eheh they are older than me mar… like my big bro n big sis… feel damn awkward dunno shud tell or not.
kokfye: u mean scenario 1 or 2? scenario 2… hint hint her so many times liao… guess it just don’t work